U is for UCSD – University of California, San Diego
(This is part of a series, Blogging from A to Z April 2014 Challenge.
My theme for the challenge is Quintessential San Diego from A to Z, focusing on those things that are typical, or perfect, or classic examples of San Diego life. Today is U.)
Today, I won’t go all-Wikipedia-on-you about UCSD. I’ll just tell my story.
When I graduated from high school ‘back in the day,’ my dad expected me to go on to college. I wasn’t really given a choice, or asked what I thought about it. And it was expected that I would attend UCSD.
So, I dutifully applied and was accepted. And like many college kids, I had a hard time finding my niche. I changed majors twice, and ended up with a Psychology major.
UCSD was, and still is, a research university. In one of my upper-division lab classes, I was assigned a pigeon to run experiments on. Thankfully, they weren’t unkind experiments. We were measuring how often the pigeon would peck for food, in the Pavlov’s Dog vein. One day, the pigeon escaped and I couldn’t catch it to get it back in its cage. Running around the lab, trying to catch a flapping pigeon. Unsuccessfully. That maybe wasn’t a highlight of my university career.
The classes were tough, and got tougher. And they really weren’t my bent. So after three years I dropped out. But I promised my dad I would go back and finish. I just didn’t promise when.
In the meantime I married Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome, and together we pursued a ministry calling that led us to the Philippines for the next several decades.
But I never forgot my promise to my father.
Then, in 2000, the illness of my mother-in-law brought us back to San Diego. We lived with her and cared for her in her last years. And in 2001, I was able to re-enroll at UCSD.
It was different this time around. I was the oldest student in every single one of my classes that year, and older than many of my profs. (And maybe I was just a tad more mature than I’d been before, too?) UCSD’s Psychology Department had broadened in scope and I was able to take classes that were relevant to me.
After one year, I graduated! It only took me 30 years from start to finish. I was a 30-year senior.
And my dear sweet dad, now age 84, was able to attend my college graduation. Beaming.
He only lived three-and-a-half more years after that. I miss him every day. He was always there for me. I’m so grateful I could fulfill my promise to him. Love you, Dad!
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Such a great story, Donna! Proud of you. (Suess = Seuss) LOL
Thanks, Anita! I love having a professional editor for a friend and blog reader. I thought that didn’t look right, about Seuss. Corrected now.
What a great story, Donna! I know the feeling. My parents pushed me into studying computer science when I graduated from high school 32 years ago. I did as they wished and went through 2 ½ years of not knowing what the hell I was doing. My real dream has always been to be a published, professional writer. But, I also wanted to be a filmmaker, so I switched majors at a major university – much to my parents’ dismay. I think they thought I just wanted to be a professional bum. I dropped out of college in 1987, always saying I’d go back. Well, I did – 20 years later. I finally earned a B.A. in English. My parents couldn’t be happier!
Congratulations, Alejandro! It’s funny how important our parents’ opinions are even when we are very independent adults, isn’t it? My dad really wanted me to go into computers. Somehow he knew, 40+ years ago, how significant they were going to be. If I had. . . my life would be so different.
This is such a lovely story on so many levels! First, the personal experience which is very touching. Second – that beautiful library. Libraries are my favourite places (speaks an ex-librarian). And third – it’s named after Dr Seuss! Just amazing. I’ve shared that on all my social media.Thank you.
Thank you, Anabel. Wow! I really appreciate the shares. You know what is interesting about that library–to expand it over the years, they did it all underground, so as not to mess up the iconic structure. It is quite a warren under there now. And somehow they put shafts up through the ground to let in some natural light as well.
I’d love to see it – I’m a bit of a library geek.
Yay! I’m glad your dad was able to see it. It’s funny how life happens, huh?
I took a long time to graduate for a multitude of reasons. I went for 4 years, but changed majors so many times it was as if I only went two. Then I took a long break, then went back part time, then full time, and finally – 12 years after I started – I got my degree in International Relations. My parents had promised me a trip to Italy when I was in HS as a college graduation present. As much as I wanted to visit the country, I told myself I didn’t want to do it until I had my degree. I went 5 months after I graduated college (but, I didn’t let them gift it to me because I felt bad for dragging it out so long!)
Good for you, Ann! And a trip to Italy is a very worthy reward for all that determination to get through college no matter how long it takes.
What a tear-jerker of a story…so sweet!
Thank you.